The Ideal End State Exercise: Design Your Perfect Life

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TL;DR

Learn the Ideal End State Exercise, a simple but powerful journaling technique that reveals the gaps between your stated desires and actual actions, helping you design a life aligned with what you truly want.

Key Takeaways

1The Ideal End State Exercise involves creating a detailed bulleted list of what your ideal life would look like, including daily activities, relationships, work, health, and lifestyle specifics.
2Inconsistencies between your list and current actions reveal whether you're pursuing what you truly want or following societal expectations without conscious alignment.
3Once you identify your ideal end state, evaluate whether your current actions are moving you toward that goal or away from it—then either adjust your goals or your actions accordingly.
4This exercise works across all life stages and wealth levels, from college students to billionaires, and typically takes about an hour to complete thoroughly.
5Variations like 'What does your ideal Tuesday look like?' or 'What does your ideal Sunday look like?' provide additional journaling prompts to clarify your true desires.

Notable Quotes

“Every time I've gone through this exercise with someone it really highlights the inconsistencies between what they say they want and their actions and often it's like pretty big inconsistencies right.”
— Kevin Dalstrom

“If driving a fancy car isn't on your list but you own one that's probably keeping you from doing the things you really want.”
— Kevin Dalstrom

“We kind of go with the flow like we listen to what society says is not really what we want we just sort of go along with it.”
— Kevin Dalstrom

“If you're taking actions that are not getting you to the goal you want then I don't know you're just shating yourself.”
— Ali Abdaal

Chapters

1. Introduction to the Ideal End State Exercise

The speaker introduces Kevin Dalstrom, a successful entrepreneur and investor known for his balanced life across work, family, and hobbies like elite rock climbing. This balance is attributed to the Ideal End State Exercise, which aligns actions with desires.

2. How the Exercise Works

Kevin explains the mechanics: create a bulleted list describing your ideal life in specific detail—what a day looks like, who you're around, what you're doing, and how you're feeling. The exercise reveals gaps between what people say they want and what they actually do.

3. The Porsche Example: Spotting Misalignment

A case study showing how someone might own a fancy car without it being on their ideal life list, indicating either dishonesty about desires or actions driven by societal pressure rather than genuine values.

4. Speaker's Personal Ideal End State

The creator shares his own comprehensive ideal life list, including freedom in work, large family, health, travel, business portfolio generating $10M+ annual profit, philanthropy through a 10% pledge, and hosting world-class stage shows combining personal development with magic and music.

5. From Ideal State to Action Alignment

The key step: compare your current life to your ideal end state, then assess whether your current actions move you toward or away from that goal. Adjust either the goal or the actions to create alignment and stop 'shitting yourself.'

6. Variations and Additional Resources

Alternative prompts like 'ideal Tuesday' or 'ideal Sunday' help deepen clarity. The speaker offers a three-part video series on designing your life, covering goals, actions, plans, and systems.

Key People & Entities

Kevin Dalstrom: Four-time founder, three-time CMO, investor in 55+ companies, elite rock climber, and practitioner of the Ideal End State Exercise
Michael Kjan Prorn: Former founder of Skillshare, interviewer who introduced the speaker to Kevin Dalstrom's Ideal End State Exercise
Tony Robbins: Productivity and personal development event host whose live seminar model inspired the speaker's vision for stage shows
Darren Brown: Mentalist and magician whose stage show aesthetic influenced the speaker's concept for combined entertainment and personal development

Glossary

Ideal End State Exercise: A journaling practice where you create a detailed bulleted list describing your ideal life across all dimensions (work, relationships, health, travel, etc.) to identify what you truly want and reveal misalignment with your current actions.
Action-Desire Alignment: The degree to which your current behaviors and decisions move you toward or away from your stated life goals; misalignment indicates either inaccurate goal-setting or ineffective actions.
Societal Pressure vs. Authentic Desire: The distinction between pursuing goals because external society expects them versus pursuing goals that genuinely reflect your values and vision for your life.

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